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How to Begin to Overcome Shyness?

How to Begin to Overcome Shyness?

The one thing that is absolutely vital to overcoming shyness is DESIRE. You must want to, badly. POSITIVE SELF TALK We must begin to talk to ourselves about ourselves in a more positive way. Instead of defining ourselves negatively we must define ourselves positively. Tell yourself that... * I am equal in dignity to anyone else. * I have a lot to offer other people. * People are not my enemies. * I am intelligent and nice to be with. * I can do anything I put my mind to. * I am loveable and capable just the way I am right now. Many times through the day stop and say something like, "Every day, in every way, I am becoming more comfortable speaking with people." REMEMBER... that every person is a unique gift. There is no other person like you on the planet. There has never been another like you. There will never be another like you. So treat yourself like the rare, unique, precious gift that you are.

Today, A Wonderful Day

Today, A Wonderful Day

Believe, today is the most wonderful day of your life! You live in today; drink, dine, walk, talk, work and play today. Living today is not enough, make it a wonderful day for you. In order to make your today a wonderful day, get up from the bed early in the morning. While brushing your teeth, brush away the unfounded fears about today. Look in the mirror and say: "It's a wonderful day. Go for a morning walk. Look what you were missing in your life. The chattering of birds, the smile of flowers and the (good) morning breeze gently touching your body. What a wonderful day! After oxygenating your body in the open air, sit down crossed legs on the floor in a quiet place and go into deep meditation for 20-30 minutes with your eyes closed. Now open the window of your imagination and see with your "inner eyes" a giant YOU (a very energetic, fearless and confident person). Visualize the real YOU, a very powerful person within you. Take the divine energy from your inner-self and charge your body with the high powered currents. Isn't it amazing! Lucky you! No doubt, it's the most wonderful day! What can be more refreshing than taking a hot water shower cleaning your body from head to toe. While shaving your beard, shave away the weeds of fear, self-pity and helplessness. Rather grow an imaginative beard of faith, courage and confidence. Now look in the mirror with your newly grown beard. Smile, smile, smile; it's a wonderful day. Don't forget to eat a nourishing breakfast. Your body needs energizing food to maintain a good posture and a positive attitude. Oh no, don't switch on the TV in the morning. Let the "dear devil" sleep. The TV people like to show "breaking news" and you know any "bad news" is a "breaking news" for them. Don't allow the TV to take away your smile and push you in the negative territory. It will be a disaster for you. Instead, play your favorite music and sing "it's a wonderful day". Reaching your job place a few minutes before the start of work gives you the positive feeling of being ahead of others. Shake hands with your co-workers, smile and say good morning, I wish you a wonderful day. Monday is the day when people have to push themselves to go to work. What a pity! Monday should be the most wonderful day for you. What can be more satisfying than the feeling that after a gap of two days, you are back to work. Enjoy your work. Be proud of your work. During the day whenever your feel depressed just say the magical words "it's a wonderful day" and see how the depression melts away. Make every effort to make today a wonderful day. Those who lived yesterday are sleeping in their graves. Those who will live tomorrow, we don't know. The only living day is today and it's a wonderful day for the person who knows the dignity and honor of today.

I Know I Can, I Know I Can

I Know I Can, I Know I Can

Basically, if you think you can, you can, but if you KNOW you can, you WILL. By setting a goal, having a burning desire to achieve that goal, and daily affirming that goal, there is no way you can fail. You must stay focused on your goal and remain commited to reaching it. Write your goal(s) down on paper and place them where you can read them every day. Remember, we are staying focused here. Read them out loud to yourself. If you memorize them, read them anyway. Visualize your goals. Find pictures to represent your goals and put them up where you can see them every day. Can't find a picture? Draw one! The more you commit yourself to a goal, the easier it is to discover the steps you need to take to reach it. Look at steps that fail as successful learning tools, stepping stones along your chosen path. Take charge of your life NOW! It's the only one you have.

Keep Yourself Cool

Keep Yourself Cool

Know your limits. Accept what you can't change and let go of things out of your control. Ease your tension. Take a walk; listen to music, splash cold water on your face. Earn small rewards when you make the choice not to become angry. Phone a friend. It helps to share your concerns and talk things out. Your example helps your children learn to handle anger. Be a good role model. Object to the behavior if necessary, but separate the "deed from the doer." Use your kitchen timer for "time out" before disciplining. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, including you and your children. Count your breaths. Breathe in deep while counting to four. Breathe out while counting to four. Do four times. Old tapes in your head may be making your reaction more than it should be. Are you angry because of issues in your childhood? Out of ideas to handle anger? Consider parenting classes or professional counseling. Look objectively at the situation. Are you making a mountain out of a molehill? Is it really worth having a heart attack or stroke? This too shall pass. Controlling angry feelings is a skill that children learn from the people who care for them. There are activities which support our development of self-control. Count to twenty, backwards! We all need to find helpful ways to intervene when anger and frustration overwhelms us or our children.

Not A Negative Thought!

Not A Negative Thought!

Turn negative thoughts into positive ones. Negative thoughts can be very self-destructing, it's true that hoClose your eyes and count slowly to 10, while counting concentrate on listening to the numbers. What did that prove? While you were counting, what else were you thinking about? Unless you're different from most people the answer would be, "I only thought of the numbers". Our minds can only think of one thing at a time, so next time a self doubt or a negative thought pops into your mind, then quickly think of something positive, in other words, change the conversation in your head and this will change the negative thoughts in your mind. Have on stand by a few positive thoughts that you can switch too next time the negative ones attack your thinking. Do this every time a negative thought enters your thinking and you'll be surprised by the changes to your life, pretty soon you'll find that after you changed to the positive thought a positive action will follow. As well as, the mind switching thought technique, why not find a "peaceful" spot where you won't be disturbed and for at least 15 minutes everyday, practice thinking nothing but positive thoughts or thinking nothing at all, before too long you'll be amazed by the results.w we think is who we are.

Improve Your Self Confidence

Improve Your Self Confidence

Knowing yourself is the foundation of self-esteem, self confidence and personal development. Man has been seeking himself since the days of the Oracle of Delphi. "Know yourself" said the Oracle, but she spoke in riddles and the men who had come a long way to get a simple answer from her wise lips went away even more confused. Yes, it isn't easy to really understand a human being. And, to understand others, we need first of all to understand ourselves and to gain self-esteem and confidence. How can we do this? There are ways to work on this and we can do it in the comfort of our home if we don't want to attend evening courses in self confidence and self-esteem and meet others in similar situations. Some tips: * Write down your positive achievements, all that you can remember; educations, jobs, loves and relationships (even if they ended, you still achieved them), friendships, children, driving licence... Look at what you already have and realize you have done rather well. * Write down good things that others have said about you. Read through old documents from former employers or teachers that state all your strong sides. Maybe you forgot you had them? * Make plans. Ask yourself what can be done. What can you change to make things better? Write down precise goals and write a step-by-step plan on how you intend to achieve your goals. *Decision. Make a decision that tomorrow you will start dealing with the first step of your plan. When you read what you have written you will realize that you have grown and developed over the years. That also means that you can grow and develop further.

Attitude Makes the Difference

Attitude Makes the Difference

For success in a business or in fact anything there's one thing you especially have to factor in: - YOU. Your attitude and your approach to things determine absolutely what you will get. Many years ago, Henry Ford summed it up perfectly - "Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can't, you are right." Focus on the Positive Successful business people develop their positive attitudes because they feed on progress. At the end of the day, instead of dragging up all the difficulties and problems that you have that day, look at what you have accomplished. Write down the two most positive things that you have achieved that day and congratulate yourself on those positive conclusions. You can always end each day on a positive note by taking note of the things you have achieved rather than by focusing on the things you wish you had achieved. It may be things that happen to you or people around you or events that proved advantageous to you. There are probably things that no one else knows anything about because they were achieved quietly during your day. So, you may be the only person to give yourself a pat on the back by acknowledging that you made progress however small. Always retain a positive attitude in your business and personal life because the characteristic of being positive is one that most successful people possess. A positive attitude does not come by accident. It is something that involves your personal choice of how to react. It is easy to react in a negative manner and decide to give up. Just remember it is just as easy to choose the positive manner and tell yourself that there is hope, that tomorrow is yet to come and that what you failed to do today you will be able to achieve the next day. Highly successful people know how to create a positive attitude for themselves. They don't just wait for it to arrive. By assuming a positive attitude on the things that happen in your business and personal life your confidence will be restored and your sense of hope will be increased. This will allow you to have a new perspective on life and encourage you to have the attitude of never giving up. When you fall, do you get right back up? Do you learn from your mistake and move on? Or do you kick yourself so hard in the butt that you just mope around for days in your Pj's and wonder why you're so miserable? The more mistakes you make, the more you learn. The more you learn the more you grow and the more likely you'll be a future bright star in the sky. The old saying "if you don't quit, you'll make it" still holds true.

Positive Thoughts and Words

Positive Thoughts and Words

You want to change your self-care habits and you can't seem to do it. Or, you realize that changing your self-care habits might be a good idea but you just can't seem to get on board and be sold on the idea. Maybe the words that you're thinking and saying are getting in your way.Whatever you say or think about yourself is what will come true - choose what that will be! Rick Carson, who wrote the wonderful self-help book "Taming your gremlin", says, "a belief is just an opinion to which you've developed loyalty." Wow, if that's true, then you can challenge and even change your beliefs! I've decided that it's true - how about you? How to choose your words and thoughts more powerfully.
1. Notice that your thoughts come and go and that you choose whether or not to pay attention to them. Play with how much you pay attention to them. When negative thoughts come up, try to purposefully "think positively" and tell yourself the opposite.
2. Instead of thinking and talking about what you DON'T want or what you DON'T like, focus your energies on the opposite. What DO you want? What DO you like? Have gratitude and appreciation when those things appear in your life and you will easily attract more of them.
3. Listen for when you say the word "but" - especially at the beginning of a sentence. Notice what happens when you replace it with "AND". There are many things that can be true at any given time. When you say AND instead of BUT you're opening your mind to other truths.
4. Notice which words & thoughts seem to limit you and keep you from improving your self-care habits, and which ones seem to motivate and encourage you. Which ones get in your way and which ones expand your belief about what's possible?
5. Notice the impact of your chosen words on the people you are talking to and spending time with.
6. Notice how your self-care habits affect your mood and your ability to think positively. I know that if I don't eat balanced, healthy meals that are timed evenly throughout the day, or if I don't get enough sleep, I'm bound to get caught in some negative thinking that I have to consciously find my way out of.

10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

Do you know how to improve your self esteem? Probably not. To make it a little bit easier for you and to achieve your goals quicker I put together 10 tips that you can utilize right away.
1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.
2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.
3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.
4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tent to be more successful in their career.
5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)
6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.
7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation.
8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice?
9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself. Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her life? Don't filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Be caring.
10. Stay "in the moment." Don't mentally cut off the other person. Don't reload while he or she is speaking. What this means is that you need to focus on the other person 100% during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude. Next time you meet somebody new look out for these behaviors. Put a mental checkmark on the each of the 10 tips and see how well this person scored. Chances are that the person scored very high if you tent to like her/him. On the contraire the person probably scored low if you don't seem to connect.